why are men like that?

don't you find yourself asking that question? why sometimes men are too overprotective? why they incessantly bug you as if they're your father? women want to know why they can't have their own space at times, while guys just don't seem to get a grip on their paranoia.

I blame it on the media. The entertainment industry. Movies, to be exact.

This weekend, I have come to a comprehensive diagnosis of the male psyche. Let's call it the Adam Sandler Syndrome.

Seriously, he is modern romanticism personified. hopelessly geekish, down-to-earth, caring, and repeatedly doomed in love, only to get the girl back by some sweet turn of fate before the credits roll. that's the fantasy world that the media has plunged geeks like me into.

After watching both Mr. Deeds and The Wedding Singer this weekend, I found out that no other person makes me feel good about being a geek other than Adam Sandler. Mr. Deeds is about a naive young billionaire who has everybody's interest at heart first before his own. Ultimately he falls prey to sensationalism and the malicious clutches of the media, which separates him from his journalist girlfriend. The Wedding Singer is about a hopeless artist/composer who gets dumped by her fiancee because he's not cool enough for her, unable to attain rock star status in his line of work. In the end, for both movies, everything's fine and he gets the girl.

which, of course, does not translate into reality, thus the imperfections. It's like missing a piece of your Disney jigsaw puzzle and, instead of finding the lost face of Mickey Mouse, you just grab a piece from another box, say, Yoda's face. Now that's kind of proportionate: short, mage-like, rodent, but the results are hideous.

Perhaps, that's why i picked up guitar in the first place, in the hopes that one day, i'll be on a flight to Las Vegas and surprise a girl with my improvised song, guitar on hand (that final scene never EVER EVER fails to make me cry). You see, there's always something that we can take from Adam Sandler: just be nice to girls, don't do anything wrong to them. You can be misunderstood, but in the end, just apologize. Be a good boy. Sing them songs that talks about them controlling the remote control, not you. Ultimately, it's about them, not you.

which is the problem. that's why guys always go: where are you now? what are you doing? what time did you sleep last night? sleep earlier okay? you'll be fine. blah blah blah.

I'm not saying that we don't mean it. we really do. it's just that females view the world differently. Sure, they find Adam Sandler cute, but after awhile he's not the kind of guy that you hang posters on the wall with or dream about. It's a nice experience, you know? it's kind of like cheesecake: it's sweet, nice for the moment, but it's not something to build your diet around.

Others may blame it on other things, like metrosexualism, or perhaps the feminist movement. Guys become mellow and girls become demanding. hahaha. scary.

But does that mean I will revert to the clean-shaven, cologne-wearing embodiments of machismo? no way. somehow, I am comfortable in who I am. Geek, central-parting, guitar playing (yes, we are geeks.), wishful thinking, hopeless romantics of the new generation. Does that make us less of a man? I don't think so. I even suggest that it's becoming the new romantic revolution, which is bad. But girls are happy being given the attention, but only to a point. Girls are happy to oblige and be led by the hand, but only to a point as well.

Speaking of the sudden blur divisions between convention, my roommate's got a job! which means he won't be around most of the time.

hahaha i told you it would be hard to not find things to whine about.

so yah, for my blog above, forget about it if you're not convinced. It's just an after-effect of The Wedding Singer. Maybe later i'll look back and regret that I ever wrote those stuff.

i'll put up a poll for fun. vote ok?

I'M OUT!!!